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In this episode I share a mini session with you. Most women are more compelled to fix their weight than deal with their lives and their emotions. Weight gain can be an invitation to find out what you’re thinking and feeling that isn’t working for you.

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Weight is just a symptom. Fixing your weight is never the solution unless you can figure out what caused it to begin with.

The woman in the mini-session was used to binging when she felt strong emotions, and then just under-eating after. She learned to control her weight this way. It was a total disconnection to her body for 20 years. She could binge, not feel, and control her weight.

This only became a problem when she could no longer control her weight. Her weight gain is not the problem, but her inability to feel negative emotion is the problem. Listen in as I talk to you about the questions I asked her, and how I helped her see that her weight gain is a blessing.

Enjoy the show!

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In this episode we discuss what the mindful next step is when you go off the rails.

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I have a lot of clients who tell me they went off the rails when they overate non-fuel foods at a meal. Most of them seem to make it mean they were “bad” and as long as they were bad, they might as well keep on keeping on with this mistreatment of themselves.

My clients don’t call it this, but that’s what I tell them they’re doing to themselves and that’s what I’m telling you too. With the eating tools I’ve taught you, it usually means you’ve fogged, by turning your back on yourself, or stormed by trying really hard not to feel what you’re feeling and seeing yourself doing this, but feeling powerless to stop.

Either way, this is going off the rails, not wanting to feel a feeling or just plain turning your back on yourself.

The best way to come back from “oblivion” is to change your black and white, all or nothing thinking and go “grey”.

If you’ve been using the tools I’ve been teaching, you’re becoming more aware or mindful of why you eat, and what your body is actually requiring. But as you start this awareness you will still fog and binge if that has been your style of eating before. You’re just becoming more aware and learning more about yourself. Promise yourself now what you will do if and when you fall off the rails.

Menopause is a great time to break old habits that aren’t working for you, and this would be one of them. One sure way to make it harder than ever to lose weight during menopause is to continue thinking you’re on or off the rails. That will definitely make losing weight a whole lot harder.

What if there were no rails to fall off? Just come back to your awareness and your body at each meal and use compassion every time. Wait until you’re hungry and eat a fuel meal. That’s it. Nothing more and nothing less. It’s just a meal.

Most of my clients think if they’re kind to themselves they will never lose weight. If you think you’re doing yourself a favor by going off the rails and party again, until you’re cut off again, you may stay off.

Instead, use kindness. “Well it’s just a meal,” no matter how big that meal may be. It’s just one time, it’s just a small part of the day, and you have the rest of the day to stay aware and treat yourself better.

Change your on and off again thinking and you will never think you went “off the rails” again.

Enjoy the show.

To get your free copy of the Thinner Peace in Menopause and Beyond Podcast Companion please go to http://drdebbutler.com/change. This will make it even easier to follow along with me on future podcasts.

If you like what I’m talking but think you need more guidance, I am offering a free consultation to my listeners to answer any questions you might have about anything I’ve talked about, such as keeping a food journal. Just go to http://drdebbutler.com/workwithme.

Please leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://drdebbutler.com/itunes. It will help me reach more women who struggle with these issues. Here’s how to rate and review on iTunes: http://drdebbutler.com/rate. Thank you!

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Ep 15 Binge Eating: Dealing With The Anger vs Binge Eating

Today we’re going to go deeper into binge eating (in my program I call it storm eating.) I’m using another example of another client who was angry. Anger is the most common feeling women have a hard time dealing with. I used this client because she’s newer and hasn’t started journaling yet. I want to […]

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Ep 14 Binge Eating: You Can’t Binge Eat Mad. Anger is Not a Food Group

One of the hardest emotions for women to feel is anger. I have more clients who eat their anger than any other emotion. I’ve told you before that binging or storming is always a result of a strong negative emotion or negative on the Emotional Hunger Scale. As young girls, we were taught anger is […]

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Ep 10 Real Life Moment: How To Stop Binge Eating Using Mindfulness

This episode is all about night-time eating. This is a big problem for many of my clients and it is different for everyone. Many people storm or binge eat during this time, so I thought I would give a real life coaching session and how mindfulness helps storm eating, or what is commonly referred to […]

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