Ep 169: How Self-Kindness Helps You Come Back to Your Best

Do you ever think you should be farther along than you are? Consider giving yourself some self-kindness. More often than not, it’s easier to be kind and compassionate to others than ourselves. However, being kind and compassionate to yourself is just as important. These two things are crucial to help you come back to what is truly best for you despite all the struggles that may come your way.

In this episode, I talk about two of the best things you should give yourself—kindness and compassion. I also share an inspiring story about a client who learned to anchor herself on self-kindness and self-compassion to overcome unexpected circumstances. I’m here to tell you why being kind and compassionate to yourself is a powerful tool you can use to achieve what you truly deserve in life.

Tune in to the episode to learn why you deserve to be kind and compassionate to yourself.

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

1. I share a story about my client and her journey toward self-kindness and self-compassion.
2. Discover why self-kindness and self-compassion can help you get anything you want.
3. Find ways to develop these values for yourself.

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Episode Highlights

Dealing with Unexpected Circumstances

• One of my clients struggled with self-kindness and self-compassion when she had to undergo shoulder surgery.
• She expected she would heal fast and feel better right away, which had not been the case.
• She forgot to be kind and compassionate to herself for what she went through.
• Also, she beat herself up and ended up losing control over her food.
• Unexpected circumstances can get us off track, but we will have the resilience to come back if we are kind to ourselves.

Being Kind & Compassionate to Yourself

• Once my client learned to become kinder to herself, it became easier for her to take care of herself and feed herself the right food.
• Your capability and willingness to get back on track are crucial.
• During difficult times, people can show up to help you. But it won’t work if you lack self-compassion.

Questions to Think About

• What are you saying to yourself in your head when you don’t like what you see about you?
• Can you forgive yourself?
• Can you have compassion for yourself?

Key Points on Self-Kindness & Self-Compassion

• Self-compassion is available to you. You can always have your back.
• If you lose it, you can come back.
• Your mind and perception have more power than what is actually happening to you.
• Kindness and compassion are muscles in your body that you have to exercise.

5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode

“What your little brain wants to do when you start getting down to the weight that you’ve always wanted to get to, it’s got a lot of ideas that may not serve you.”

“She was not herself, and she did not give herself any room for healing. And when that happened, food all of a sudden became like a joy thing, or a fun thing, or a take my mind off thing.”

“I just allowed myself to be where I am. And as soon as I could do that, it was so much easier for me to take care of myself and so much easier for me just to feed myself the food that I needed.”

“If you leave for a little bit, just remember: you can come back any time.”

“No matter what happens to her, she can always come back to herself by being her best friend, being so kind and so self-compassionate. That really is the key. Not so much what she’s putting in her mouth; it’s much more what she’s saying in her head.”

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Dr. Deb