I had such an interesting coaching session with another beloved client of mine today who has been frustrated because she hasn’t been able to lose weight.
This session blew both of our minds.
Today she was talking about her job – she’s got a rocking business!
The field she’s in is mostly male-dominated. (This is a fact!)
Today, she told me that she would never be taken seriously if she looked attractive. (Her thought.)
I casually asked her, “Is this why you stay overweight? So you can be taken seriously among your colleagues and clients?”
This revelation was mind blowing because, until the moment when she said it aloud, she had never realized she’d been thinking these poisonous thoughts. When she heard herself saying this, she realized it sounded ridiculous!
We, as observers, can see this thought is RIDICULOUS! But when she’s inside her own mind her vision is clouded with emotions (which she created by her own thoughts), so she believes this thought with all her heart!
I want to tell you what she and I concluded after much conversation: deep, deep down in her mind of core beliefs, she believed if she was thin and beautiful she wouldn’t be taken seriously in a male dominated industry.
She believes the reason she’s been so successful in business is because her community accepts her because she’s overweight, not thin and attractive. (Her perception.)
Now that we have extracted this thought from her mind, her work really begins. She needs to become aware of how prevalent this thought is in her mind, and catch herself thinking it (‘cause she will). It’s not gone YET!!
Do you see, my dear reader, how damaging this thought can prove to be? How in the world can this woman ever begin taking excellent care of herself while believing the poisonous thoughts that doing so will end her business success?
There is no healthy lifestyle in the world that could work as long as she has this core belief, and, of course, nothing has.
If you’re not able to lose weight after all these years, maybe it’s time to hire a coach who can help extract these poisonous thoughts from that beautiful mind of yours.
Let’s talk. In our free mini session, I will help you recognize at least one poisonous thought that is blocking your path to successful weight loss.
Dr. Deb
